Dear Heloise. I just read the column about uninvited guests and the family letter that was sent out to discourage the same from happening again.

I would think it highly rude, disrespectful and presumptive for people to simply show up and expect to be put up, fed, entertained, and/or think it acceptable to have a built-in babysitter.

We have close friends with a lakeside cabin in the Sierra mountains. If we want to visit, we rent a condo or stay in a hotel, and we visit with our friends. We do the same thing when we want to see our daughter and her family in another state.

It’s our responsibility to take care of ourselves. It’s our goal to be good friends, parents and grandparents — not users. — C.D., in Claremont, California

CEMETERY SUFFERS FROM THEFT

Dear Heloise: Our street is next to a large cemetery, and I’ve gotten to know the grounds manager well. He has said that theft of the cemetery vases is a big problem due to their value from the copper content.

He has caught people turning in large quantities of vases at the local metal reclamation company. The best way to combat this is for reclamation companies to refuse to accept these vases, which can be difficult because of the potential money to be made. — Phil V., via email

CLEANING TINY OBJECTS

Dear Heloise: I read your column every day in the San Antonio Express-News! Here is a tip for dusting small objects:

My husband has a collection of tiny military vehicles — jeeps, cars, tanks, etc. They are displayed on top of a cabinet, and to keep them free of dust, he dusts them with a soft paintbrush. This gets into all the nooks and crannies, and they stay clean this way. — Susan G., in San Antonio.

Susan, a clean paintbrush is also handy for dusting lampshades, nearly anything small and/or dainty, scroll work on furniture, and picture frames. — Heloise

REUSING PAPER

Dear Heloise: Instead of throwing away used printer paper, I now fold it into quarters, cut it along the folds, and place them in a small clipboard for when I need to take notes for shopping or directions. — Johnny B., in Long Beach, California

Johnny B., this is a good hint. I have a page-a-day calendar, and every day, I tear off the previous day and place it under the calendar with the blank back facing up.

When I need to write down a number or take a message, I use the back of one of the small sheets from the calendar. — Heloise

UNSUBSCRIBING

Dear Heloise: I receive hundreds of emails each day that I have no interest in. When I select unsubscribe, I’m taken to another screen to assure that this is what I want to do. It sounds simple, but one extra step for each email that is received could consume most of a person’s day.

Why can’t each email have an “unsubscribe” button in the body of the email, and once it’s been selected, it’s done? It doesn’t open another browser, and you no longer receive email from this source. And please don’t tell me that there is an app for this. — Steve W., in California

Steve, this is an interesting point. How do my readers feel about this? Please let us know here at Heloise Central. — Heloise